Coaching Vs Therapists

https://www.noomii.com/article/coaching-vs-therapy

Coaching vs. Therapy

A common misconception is that coaching is the same as therapy, when in fact they are quite different. Therapy is intended to help people recover from emotional or other psychological disorders such as depression or anxiety. Coaching, on the other hand, is intended to help normal, healthy individuals achieve personal goals such as increased happiness, weight loss, improved work-life balance. etc.

The table below shows a quick side-by-side comparison of coaching vs. therapy

Coaching and Therapy

Coaching	Therapy
Client is emotionally and psychologically healthy	Client is emotionally unwell and in needs healing
Focuses on the present and future	Focuses on dealing with the past
Driven by goals and taking action	Driven by unresolved issues and feelings
Works toward a higher level of functioning	Works to achieve understanding and emotional healing
Results-based and focuses on exploring solutions	Explores the root of problems and offers explanation
Asks, “Where would you like to be and how can you get there?”	Asks, “How did that make you feel?”
Acts on information	Absorbs information
Done over the phone, internet or in person	Done in an office setting
Coach and client collaborate on solutions	Therapist is the ‘expert’
Contact between sessions expected (accountability and wins)	Contact between sessions for crisis and difficulties only

Lakewood שלום בית-Therapists (terrorists) are not the solution, they are the root of the problem!

Advice on Responding to a Restraining Order

Unfortunately many women are receiving bad advice from therapists, attorneys and Pseudo Rabbonim who know nothing about Halachah. Their only interest is to pander their client and keep them satisfied. They will never advise their client to do the proper thing according to Halacha, when the client will not be happy with this advice. 
               The result has been a large increase in the issuance of RO’s to Yeshiva Leit. The proper response is to go to Bais Din and request that they commence proceedings to render the sender of the RO a מורדת. If the Bais Din sees that there is no justification for the RO and the issuer does not retract they will commence with the proceedings. The details of what Bais Din has to do are described in Even HaEzer Siman 77. 

As more women get declared a מורדת the reputation of the advisors will deteriorate since we can now quantify that they are giving bad advice and it is producing negative consequences to their clients.

A second benefit is that after the proceedings are finalized there are financial advantages such as no KESUBAH (see Siman 77 for more details)

A third benefit is after 12 months you can give a GET on your terms, and remarry according to most Poskim without a HETER MEIOH RABBONUM if she refuses to accept the GET (see Siman 77 for more details).

A fourth benefit is public relations “He left her because she was a מורדת sounds better than “she threw him out”.

I hope and encourage anyone who has received a RO to go forward with this advice and may הקב"ה give you ס"ד to end these issues with Shalom.

TOSHAV MONSEY

toshav@optimum.net

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                                                                   Lakewood- שלום בית

Therapists terrorists are not the solution, but the root cause of the problem.

Update: Re: שלום בית issues: Lakewood "therapists & Mentors" are רודפים

Lakewood "Therapists & Mentors" just broke another family!!
Protect our children?

Don't push "Ritalin" on them like lollipops.
Ritalin? sure! so the School administrators can provide paying clients to their therapists.


Don't let Therapist [Terrorists](backed by Rabbonim) to break apart families. [Their success rate in at 99%]

Don't let the Rabbonim and therapists run for restraining orders against their husbands, who happens to be the father of her children.
She is throwing her children to the dogs. That's what revenge is.

Don't work in unison to support financially the therapists, by sending the parents, the children, etc. to therapy.

That's perhaps why children lost their respect for Rabbonim!

Don't allow the מקוה to break families. Terrorists & Rabbonim do it constantly R"L

מקוה schedules in WG are by pay-for-play? 
Get rid of the ones in charge, from the Rabbonim down. Get rid of the corruption in WG.
Don't play dumb.

Lakewood - the-rishus-continues-when-will-it-end- The therapists, etc are the group responsible- Sidom at it's best

http://hefkervelt.blogspot.com/2015/11/the-rishus-continues-when-will-it-end.html

The Lakewood therapists, etc and their Rabonim etc ( a mafia style) are the group responsible for shalom Bayis issues, separations, divorces, breaking up families, etc.

We have been monitoring the methods and results of these so called therapists, etc for the past  few years.

It's not as bad as you think, it's much worse!. 

"Rishus" is too mild of a description.

Guest comment. [Hefker velt]

http://hefkervelt.blogspot.com/2015/12/hefker-velt.html#comment-form

Its a Hefker velt, thats exactly how to describe what goes on when dealing with the sensitive issue of shalom bayis and  R'L divorce. There is no responsible system set up, no trusted agency al pi Torah and halacha. 

No communal standard that everyone adheres to, or even a bes din to turn to. Its unfortunate that so many homes are shattered as a result of total incompetence, inexperience in dealing with the issues and problems of shalom bayis. 
Its a Hefkervelt when any Askan, therapist, social worker or Rav, can do what they want with no accountability for their actions. They get away with it time and time again. There is no mirsas, no fear, no repercussions its do what ever you please. They dont have to answer up to anybody. 
Take one side of a story, give bad advice, dont do basic homework or due diligence its only nefashos were dealing with. So what if you have no experience in shalom bayis issues, who says you cant take it on all by yourself? no one is stopping you. No guidelines set in place making sure all 

A terrifying quote from the CHIDA. How far we have fallen especially in kashrus.

 There is a Pasuk in Eicha (1:3) גלתה יהודה מעוני ומרוב עבודה

"Yehuda has been exiled from misery and from an abundance of work"

The Pasuk teaches us that one of the reasons we were exiled was because of "oni" and "rov avodah".

The Chida explains this Pasuk in terms of spiritual priorities. When the important aspects of Halacha become oni-poor, unattended, and trivialized, while the less important parts, Chumras and Hidurim become rov avodah, when there is an overabundance of emphasis on the Hidurim while there is laxity in the primary of basic Kashrus, this causes the Galus to drag on.

Update-Alert: Bingo 5 Towns quietly changed their Kashrus agency.

BINGO caved into the the VAAD and did away with the CRC Hisachdus mashgiach (and standards).

Bingo & the VAAD still allows CRC/Hisachdus to keep  their Hashgocha sign.