Sunday, July 02, 2017

Rav Muzafi re: Shiduchim crisis

הרב מוצפי - מי שמציג תמונה של בחורה בשידוכים הילדים ייצאו חצופים

הרב מוצפי נשאל בימים האחרונים: "אני בת 31 חרדית בשידוכים, בתקופה האחרונה מציעים בחורים שדורשים תמונה לפני פגישה, נמנעת מלשלוח מטעמי צניעות ונפסלת כך ההצעה, אנשים מהצד אומרים שזה מותר ועושה טעות. האם נכון?".

הרב מוצפי השיב: "זו עזות מצח גמורה. חוצפה וחוסר צניעות. נורא ואיום, ממש דרכי סדום ועמורה. זה לא יהודי לבחור שידוך לפי איך שהיא נראית, וכך יוצאים ילדים חצופים".
  Gershon Gold said...
I stood firm and did not give any pictures of my daughter. My daughter is B'H married and all the boys that requested pictures are still single.
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5 comments:

  1. AnonymousSun Jul 02, 04:38:00 PM 2017

    In Lakewood, they want a picture of the car the FIL is giving.

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  2. AnonymousSun Jul 02, 04:38:00 PM 2017

    And a picture of the bank-book also.

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  3. Gershon GoldMon Jul 03, 11:12:00 AM 2017

    I stood firm and did not give any pictures of my daughter. My daughter is B'H married and all the boys that requested pictures are still single.

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  4. YoinyMon Jul 03, 11:27:00 AM 2017

    C'mon chevrah. Let's be serious. It's not for the Chosson-to-be for whom it is takeh a lack of Tznius. The picture is probably for his mother. I also don't think it's a good idea.

    For our information, I have 5 daughter-in-laws. We would not have picked ANY of them had w seen a picture. In real-life they were beautiful. And still are.

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  5. MariaThu Jul 06, 03:08:00 PM 2017

    There are also bochurim who speak through their teeth very softly on dates, the girl thinks he is so careful with shmiras haloshon he must be a lamdan and a tzadik. Only after she is married does she realize that he has nothing to say.

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