Lakewood שלום בית-Therapists (terrorists) are not the solution, they are the root of the problem!

Advice on Responding to a Restraining Order

Unfortunately many women are receiving bad advice from therapists, attorneys and Pseudo Rabbonim who know nothing about Halachah. Their only interest is to pander their client and keep them satisfied. They will never advise their client to do the proper thing according to Halacha, when the client will not be happy with this advice. 
               The result has been a large increase in the issuance of RO’s to Yeshiva Leit. The proper response is to go to Bais Din and request that they commence proceedings to render the sender of the RO a מורדת. If the Bais Din sees that there is no justification for the RO and the issuer does not retract they will commence with the proceedings. The details of what Bais Din has to do are described in Even HaEzer Siman 77. 

As more women get declared a מורדת the reputation of the advisors will deteriorate since we can now quantify that they are giving bad advice and it is producing negative consequences to their clients.

A second benefit is that after the proceedings are finalized there are financial advantages such as no KESUBAH (see Siman 77 for more details)

A third benefit is after 12 months you can give a GET on your terms, and remarry according to most Poskim without a HETER MEIOH RABBONUM if she refuses to accept the GET (see Siman 77 for more details).

A fourth benefit is public relations “He left her because she was a מורדת sounds better than “she threw him out”.

I hope and encourage anyone who has received a RO to go forward with this advice and may הקב"ה give you ס"ד to end these issues with Shalom.

TOSHAV MONSEY

toshav@optimum.net

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                                                                   Lakewood- שלום בית

Therapists terrorists are not the solution, but the root cause of the problem.

It's all the buck$$$$$$ they want, 
the more misery they cause, there are more $$$$.
The kids, the family, etc.  it's all dollars.

It's אסור to go to therapists terrorists for שלום בית issues.
The Lakewood (100+) therapist terrorists & their Rabbonim are the group that we can attribute to sholom bayis problems, separations, divorces, breaking up of families, etc.

 It's not as bad you you think, "It's much worse".

R-i-s-h-u-s  is too mild of a description!

We would appreciate the names of the Lakewood Therapists, in order to post them.




The head of a mental health  organization related that any expert therapist today has stopped taking insurance of any kind. The ones taking insurance are shvache maysos. (There is a separate problem that he couldn't address probably because he is afraid of a backlash but the expert therapists are driven by greed. There is no other segment of medical professionals where all the experts refuse to take insurance).

So here is what happened in one case with a shlemiel who took insurance who also happens to be a musmach from some kind of yeshiva. He was pushing the husband to divorce the wife. And even though he has a more advanced degree & training in medications, he completely missed the boat that the hormones in the birth control she was taking was making her meshuga.

Boruch Hashem multiple neshomos including the kids were saved when it was determined by another doctor that the birth control was making her nuts before the shlemiel therapist destroyed a gantz mishpocho over nothing.

Conclusion: Stay far away from Marriage therapi$t$,  Rabbonim.

see http://www.bhol.co.il/forums/topic.asp?cat_id=4&topic_id=3120865&forum_id=771

Coaching vs. Therapy

A common misconception is that coaching is the same as therapy, when in fact they are quite different. Therapy is intended to help people recover from emotional or other psychological disorders such as depression or anxiety. Coaching, on the other hand, is intended to help normal, healthy individuals achieve personal goals such as increased happiness, weight loss, improved work-life balance. etc.

The table below shows a quick side-by-side comparison of coaching vs. therapy

Coaching and Therapy

Coaching	Therapy
Client is emotionally and psychologically healthy	Client is emotionally unwell and in needs healing
Focuses on the present and future	Focuses on dealing with the past
Driven by goals and taking action	Driven by unresolved issues and feelings
Works toward a higher level of functioning	Works to achieve understanding and emotional healing
Results-based and focuses on exploring solutions	Explores the root of problems and offers explanation
Asks, “Where would you like to be and how can you get there?”	Asks, “How did that make you feel?”
Acts on information	Absorbs information
Done over the phone, internet or in person	Done in an office setting
Coach and client collaborate on solutions	Therapist is the ‘expert’
Contact between sessions expected (accountability and wins)	Contact between sessions for crisis and difficulties only