Bar Mitzvah, (50)
Vort, (50)
Kidush, (at home-40, Shul only mispalilim)
Wedding, (200 maximum)
Sheva Brochos (40)
Sholom Zochor (30)
Bris (35)
2- How elaborate should be permitted?
Bar Mitzvah (Shabbos- 2 types of bakery cake, cold drink, no hot foods, no herring) (during week
very basic meal no choices)
Vort, (only bakery cakes, no hot food, some salads, no sweet table)
Kidush, (2 types of bakery cake, no hot foods, no herring)
Wedding, (smorg, Women salads only, Men, 2 types of cake, potato kugel)
Sheva Brochos-(not catered, non elaborate, no themes)
Sholom Zochor- (Arbis, Basic bakery cake, beer, no hard liquor at all, cold drinks)
Bris - (Bagels/rolls, basic bakery cake, coffee, no lox, no sable, etc. Limited cold drinks, no orange juice)
3- Only Bakery cakes or fancy cakes within ($ 25.00 ) amount
Bar Mitzvah- (only bakery cakes, no fancy cakes at all, 1 Bar-Mitzvah cake)
Vort, (Salads, plain bakery cakes cookies, fruit, up-to 2 Mazel Tov cakes
Kidush, (only 2 types of bakery cakes, no fancy cakes)
Wedding, (only bakery cakes, 2 fancier cakes, not tier cakes or very fancy wedding cakes)
Sheva Brochos- (bakery cakes, cookies)
Sholom Zochor- (bakery cakes, no cookies)
Bris- Bakery cakes, no donuts, Danishes, etc.)
4- Liquor- 1-2 bottles of up to $15.00 @, or some other limit?
Bar Mitzvah- (2)
Vort, (2)
Kidush, (2)
Wedding, (3)
Sheva Brochos (2)
Sholom Zochor (0)
Bris (1)
5- Vienese Table- Yes / No ?
Bar Mitzvah- NO)
Vort, (No)
Kidush, (No)
Wedding, (NO)
Sheva Brochos (NO)
Sholom Zochor (NO)
Bris (NO)
6 - Elaborate Shmorg, Kidush, etc. with hot food.
Bar Mitzvah (NO)
Vort, (NO)
Kidush, (NO)
Wedding, (NO)
Sheva Brochos (NO)
Sholom Zochor (NO)
Bris (NO)
7- Shmorg / Kidush- Only salads by women side, basic bakery cake by men side.
Bar Mitzvah
Vort,
Vort,
Kidush,
Wedding,
Sheva Brochos
Sholom Zochor
Bris
8- No party planners.
Bar Mitzvah (NO)
Vort, (NO)
Kidush, (NA)
Wedding, (NO)
Sheva Brochos (NO
Sholom Zochor (NA)
Bris (NO)
9- Should we Allow Kidush clubs or hard liquor in Shuls or in private homes?
Bar Mitzvah (NO)
Vort, (NO)
Kidush, (NO)
Wedding, (NO)
Sheva Brochos (NO)
Sholom Zochor (NO
Bris (NO)
10- Limit on how many piece band
Bar Mitzvah- (1)
Vort, (0)
Vort, (0)
Wedding, (1)
Sheva Brochos (0)
11- Flowers- Only a vase per table.
Bar Mitzvah (VASES only)
Vort, (2-3 vases)
Kidush, (0)
Wedding, (vase on women's tables)
Sheva Brochos- (2-3 vases)
Sholom Zochor (0)
12- Loudness of music not to exceed 70 Decibels.
13- The gifts between Choson / Kalah should be toned down
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Of Course the Rabbonim, Shul Rabbonim, Roshei Yeshiva, Misader Kedushin, etc. will be in a position to enforce the Standards.
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PS A few weeks go a choson asked Reb Dovid Soleveitchik, Shlita if he should push off the chasunah till the virus issue is over?
Reb Dovid responded, when we made chasunahs in the past generations, we only had the immediate family, etc. 25-30 people and the Simcha was a real Simcha.
Make it a real Simcha, with a few people, and don't push it off, it will be a real Simcha.
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When the Gerrer Rebbeh established a maximum price the Gerrer chasdim may pay for an apartment in Eretz Yisroel,
A big Gvir came to the Rebbeh and said the Rebbeh knows I'm a very wealthy person and I want to buy expensive apartments for my family.
The Gerrer Rebbeh said if you are that rich?, buy yourself a different Rebbeh.
When the Gerrer Rebbeh established a maximum price the Gerrer chasdim may pay for an apartment in Eretz Yisroel,
A big Gvir came to the Rebbeh and said the Rebbeh knows I'm a very wealthy person and I want to buy expensive apartments for my family.
The Gerrer Rebbeh said if you are that rich?, buy yourself a different Rebbeh.
